Your Attitude Counts

When it comes to seducing a woman, attitude plays a very big role in how successful, or unsuccessful you are. If you have a positive attitude you’re more likely to attract women more easily than a guy with a negative attitude. Being positive and upbeat shows in nearly everything you do, as does being negative and glum. Women are much more likely to choose the positive, upbeat guys.

First, a positive attitude reflects confidence and self-respect. As we already discussed, confidence and self-respect are vital. A positive attitude also directly affects how other people feel when they’re around you. For example, have you ever had a friend or co-worker who was always down or pessimistic? If you have, did you notice that after a while his or her mood started making you feel down or uncomfortable or irritable? Chances are it’s happened to all of us.
So remember, if for no other reason than to not be a dark cloud hanging over everyone’s head, try your best to be positive and have a good attitude.
But it goes much further than that. When you’re trying to make your best impression on a woman, being negative will not work. You have to feel good before you can make anyone else feel good. You have to radiate the same kinds of feelings you want to receive. If you’re not giving off those positive vibes we’ll pick up on it and most likely steer clear of you.

The bottom line: women like to find a man who’s stable. Part of what women judge stability on is your work. No, this doesn’t mean you need to be a rocket scientist. It simply means that if you’re changing jobs every couple of months, or getting let go for poor attitude or poor performance, which is directly affected by your attitude, then we’re going to think twice before we get involved with you. Remember, women are looking for a partner; a 50 – 50 relationship.

Relationship Incompatibility Can Be Good or Bad


Sometimes when we meet new people, they can seem like the perfect match for the type of partner you’ve been looking for. They’re funny, sweet, sensitive, romantic and caring.

After a few months, little differences start to show you might realize that the partner you found is not the person you thought he was at all.

In most cases, this is simply because everyone is on their best behavior when they meet a new person. They’re showing you all their good traits and pleasant attributes.

However, once people start to get familiar and comfortable with another person, they can lapse into their real personalities. This isn’t always a bad thing. You might find you like each other more once you drop the pretense of always being perfect.

Of course, you could learn that you don’t like the stranger who emerged at all.

Incompatibility doesn’t always mean that you have different goals or hobbies or interests. It could mean you have different objectives in life or different religious beliefs or any number of things.

Being incompatible also doesn’t mean your relationship has to end, but there will be some things that need to be addressed.

Mending the Rift

The level of incompatibility between you and your partner is something only you can know. Some couples agree to be tolerant of the others beliefs or goals. Other couples make the change to one or the other person’s way of thinking.

Unfortunately there can be much deeper issues to overcome if your partner doesn’t want any children and you want four, plus a dog. Your partner might be into sexual fantasies that involve rubber chickens and gummy bears – or any other array of props – and you just can’t bring yourself to go there.

Your partner may also have issues with substance abuse, physical abuse or other deeper psychological issues that you don’t want to be a part of. These deeper incompatibility issues can be reason enough to consider looking for a new partner.

Being incompatible on some issues doesn’t mean the relationship needs to end. You may simply need to work on communicating your needs and preferences to your partner. However, when there are deeper issues involved, it may be time to question whether you’re happy to compromise your own values for the sake of a relationship.

Online Flirting

Many of the same things work for online flirting that work for “brick and mortar” flirting and all relationships begin with successful flirting. Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being OTT. If you go too far, she will label you “slimy” If you don’t go far enough, she will label you “wimpy”. So how do you achieve that point half way between slimy and wimpy and do it online without using eye contact or body language? All you have is a computer an internet connection and membership in an online dating site, right?

1. Have fun! Be light-hearted, funny and entertaining. Make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting is playful.

2. Ooze confidence. Successful flirts have a positive outlook on life. You need to transmit the “feel good” factor. An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies.

3. 3. Compliment her…and do it often and sincerely. Nothing opens doors like making her feel good about herself. She will want to spend more time with you and if she pays you a compliment say “thank you”. Do Not be self depreciating.

4. Listen…listen….listen. Pay attention to what she says and ask appropriate questions. Get her to open up and talk about herself. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her. Works wonders!

5. Don’t be rude. Flirting does not include being sexually explicit nor taking offence if the lady isn’t responding to you. If she isn’t interested, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably consider a different approach.

6. Send an email after you chat. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting.

Don’t try to go too fast. Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship.

A Man’s Secrets to Successful Online Dating

People have taken to online dating like a duck takes to water…because it works…or, at least, it can work. Women are, in general, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. All they have heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they have a right to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what’s a nice guy to do? You aren’t a pervert, a sexual predator, or a weirdo. You are just a nice guy looking for “the” girl for you.

You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you are desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.
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Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built on lies and deceit. Eventually she will find out the truth anyway and there you are back at square one.

A picture really is worth a thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real world she wouldn’t just see your head.

Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she has already seen a lot of pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.

Online Dating Safety for Women

Online dating can be a fun and certainly a rewarding experience for women of all ages. Maintaining your safety while doing it is simply a combination of using common sense and exercising good judgment. Online safety rules are the same as real world safety rules.

You wouldn’t give your name, address and phone number to a strange man that you met in a bar or on the street so you should never do that online either. Play it safe. Get to know this man who could turn out to be Prince Charming before you give out any information that could make it possible for him or others to trace you. Don’t tell a stranger exactly where you work. Say that you are a legal secretary (if that’s what you are) for a mid-sized law firm….not that you work for Brown, Smith and Jones Attorneys-at-law. It is safe to tell him what city you live in but you should wait to be any more specific than that until you have been chatting and exchanging emails for awhile.

Use only the tools provided by the dating service you belong to. Most offer chat and private email on their site. Do not give out your isp email address. If you must give out an email address make it a free one such as Hotmail or Yahoo. Your isp address is traceable for anyone who wants to go to the trouble.

When the time comes for you to have your first face-to-face, make that first meeting in a public place and during day light hours. Take a friend with you or arrange for one to call you on your cell soon after the arranged meeting.

Remember…you ARE in control so do not let anyone pressure you into revealing more personal information than you are comfortable with revealing.

Talk to Hot Women

By this point, you should be really starting to get used to talking to women. You should also be getting really good at making yourself feel confident in any situation. If you’ve faltered on either lesson, as in you didn’t do any of it, go back and start over.

Again, think what would happen if a fighter only trained for a week before he got into the ring with a first-rate killer? It probably wouldn’t turn out very good for that fighter. If you’re serious about picking-up and dating hot women, you must put your all into this. It’s not like there’s any exercise involved. All you’re doing is thinking and talking. Anyone can do that.

Ok, enough scolding. This week you may encounter some bruising – ego bruising, that is. You never quite know how you’re going to react when that flood of cortisol flows through your body when you approach a very attractive woman. That sense of panic, that ‘fight or flight’ feeling can really mess with your brainwaves and it can turn you into a downright stuttering moron. But you’re going to overcome those feelings with practice.

The Hidden Secrets To Dating Beautiful Women

Just like in the previous lessons, you’re going to use your visualization object and you’re going to use your three primary goals: Get them to talk about themselves, get them to smile or laugh, and then you’re going to walk away.

Don’t Get Discouraged

If you started completely from scratch, (as in, you’ve never had success with hot women before in your life) then this lesson may be the hardest one yet. Just getting up the nerve to walk up to a hot woman can be incredibly unnerving.

But know this: To pick up hot women, you don’t need:

–    Lots of Money
–    A Fancy Car
–    A High-Paying Job
–    Or Anything Else Tangible

The only thing you need to pick-up and date hot women is confidence. And you’ve already got that part down with your visualization object. With the ability to make yourself feel like a king, even for a just a few minutes, you’ll be able to muster up what it takes to attract hot women, no matter what you look like, what you drive, where you live or anything else about you that you think holds you back.

Really good looking women will be attracted to you because you’re confident, bottom line. If you can get a hot woman to talk about herself, and you can be funny while you’re doing it, while remaining confident at the same time, you’ll see how easy it is to attract and date extremely attractive women.

Those three things alone are what every hot woman wants and doesn’t usually get. In fact, most of the really attractive women find that they meet stuttering, nervous men who are somewhat intimidated by her. Don’t be one of those guys and she’ll notice immediately.

Practice this lesson for one week, even if you fall flat on your face and you embarrass yourself in front of a room full of people. When that happens, learn from it, get back up, dust yourself off and keep going.
Treat this like a competition, like a match or a fight. Train as hard as you can, and as often as you can, and soon you’ll have hot women eating out of the palm of your hand. But first you must learn the basics. You must take your licks.

So for one week, talk to any hot woman you see, use the visualization object to create a boost of confidence and use the first two goals to keep the conversation going. Then, just walk away. If you fail more than you succeed, don’t worry. That just means that you’re still learning.

And you’ll need that learning and experience for the next week, which will be the most challenging week yet. Look for tomorrows article on the steps you need for dating hot women.

What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?

The odds of finding your “soul-mate” online are a lot better than you may think. It doesn’t happen for everyone, of course, but it can happen for you. The world of internet or online dating has exploded over the last few years.

As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.

The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.

These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:

(1)    There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren’t limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.

(2)    You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You’ll even see a picture of him.

(3)    You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.

(4)    Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.

Relationship Fear

There are couples who remain together out of fear. They fear being alone, they fear what it might mean to lose their loved one. They fear having to survive financially without a partner or they fear leaving because their partner has threatened them in some way.

Fear is simply a sense of dread about the unknown, fueled by the imagination giving you all sorts of worst-case-scenario images about what might go wrong.

If you’re in your relationship because you’re afraid to be alone, then this should be a signal to you that your relationship isn’t right for you, but you aren’t ready to move on as an independent adult.

However, if your fear is based on a more serious psychological issue, such as physical or emotional abuse, then things are a little different.

There are people who remain in relationships because they fear what their partner would do to them if they left. Their partner may have threatened to commit suicide if they leave, or they may have threatened to hunt them down and hurt them if they leave.

Each of these kinds of threats falls under the Emotional Blackmail category and is damaging the trust, respect and future of the relationship.

Mending the Rift

Understand the reasons why you’re afraid of your partner or fearful of leaving and then look closely at the reasons why you’re staying.

If you truly love that person and you know the relationship is perfect for you, then you will need to sort through your fear and anxiety to uncover the root of the problem.

However, if your partner is abusive or threatening or has anger management issues, ask yourself seriously what kind of person shows love this way. Is this the type of love you want to receive? If you fear someone so much that you’re afraid to leave, then you should question whether love is really a part of your relationship at all.

A strong, healthy relationship involves love, trust and respect for and from each of you. These feelings can only survive when there is no fear of your partner or of what your partner might do.

Communication and honesty about your feelings can be a good step towards mending some of the fear-issues, but only you can know if the relationship is worth saving in these circumstances.

What to Talk About on a Date?

I’m sure you want your date to have fun and you want to have fun, too! You want to ensure that the conversation is interesting and stimulating to both of you.

Body language always speaks first in any conversation. When you are confident your body relaxes, becomes more open, you lean in, you smile, and you become more animated. When you are tense or not at ease with yourself, you will be sitting back, crossing your legs, maybe your arms, your mouth will barely break a smile, and your eyes will be searching elsewhere in the room. Knowing this will allow you to convey confidence with your body language.

Your verbal dating conversation skills will largely be judged on how able you are to create a conversation that your partner enjoys. Ultimately, that leads to you getting more dates. If you’re thinking this is obvious, yes it is! The question is HOW to create an interesting conversation.

Your dating conversation will be made up of you both asking and answering questions. If you ask the right questions, your partner is going to have fun. If you ask the wrong questions, they are going to ditch you. If you are evasive or less than honest when answering her questions, she is going to ditch you quicker.

Questions are powerful. Funny thing is that when a person is asked a direct question they somehow feel obligated to answer it. Here are some conversation starter question ideas for your first date:

“What do you love to do in your spare time?”
“What do you particularly enjoy about that?”
“If you could go on a fantasy holiday, anywhere in the world, where would it be and what would you do?”

By asking these questions you will cause your date to recall pleasant past experiences and share them with you.

The Essence of Romance.

Being passionate, you must understand this fact connected with romance.

What’s romance, and also what’s becoming passionate?

Simply, becoming passionate is usually a method of permitting your lover realize that an individual nevertheless adore these individuals, and also allowing them to realize that an individual depend on these individuals and also will need these individuals. And then, becoming passionate is all about producing remembrances.

When you can accomplish these points absolutely need way, you’re surely becoming passionate no matter what one does.

For getting an individual started off on the proper base, as soon as an individual genuinely comprehend most of these romance tips, you’d surely be a passionate, within your heart and also on your own sleeve.

#1 The miscroscopic points one does. Appreciate is in the main points, we’ve most seen which although scarcely some of us all at any time accomplish anything about this. If you would like always be passionate, figure out how to always be selfless. Walk out on your path to complete anything exclusive on your sweeter half, once you learn it would likely carry a pleasurable look on their deal with. Take action unanticipated at times.250x250 women dating

In case your man’s late for any major getting together with, find his or her apparel and also spot these individuals nicely for him to help put it on. In case your person desires to pick up a brand new publication or maybe needs to leave late at night, begin the car and also watch for the woman’s on the drive to give the woman’s a good start. [Read: Some sort of special tale to comprehend unconditional adore better]

#2 Supply the interest. Any time you’re available together with your companion, don’t ignore these individuals, specially when you’re using others. Just because you’re having a unique dialogue using another individual doesn’t suggest it is best to forget about your lover. Alternatively, contain your lover and also cause them to think that they’re the midst of the entire world.

#3 Discuss sensations. Without a doubt, that looks rather apparent to start with. Yet how frequently do you come home by the end of the prolonged time, remain near to your lover and also talk about every day?

Along with how frequently do you simply devote some sort of care-free Wednesday mid-day cozying way up and also dealing with the favorable old days when you initially fulfilled, regarding just about every other’s desires and demands and also about how exactly exclusive and also important your lover is always to an individual? Symptoms connected with love may well suggest a great deal in adore, although staying related has a significant role also.

#4 Be competitive with each other. Levels of competition works in a couple means. Should you allow ego obtain in how, you’ll detest one another from pleasant deal with. Yet in case you value one another, a little exciting and also game titles would bring two of you nearer together and also attract plenty of a joke also.

Participate in game titles, be it some sort of wedge pillow deal with, some sort of game or maybe a activity on the gaming system. Be competitive with each other, and also congratulate one another. You can find not any losers below. Any time you’re done actively playing, two of you will certainly sense happier, more stimulating and also cute, a lot more in adore even more tender to one another.

#5 Take smashes frequently. If two of you are usually foremost occupied existence clear of one another, disappear using a vacation or maybe a very little vacation once or twice 12 months to help restart this together occasions along with the romance. Perhaps the overnight vacation will certainly work. Make the time to segregate yourselves from your entire world, because it’s the only way to achieve how exclusive two of you are usually to one another.

#6 Develop remembrances. Thoughts final a very long time. There’s practically nothing on this planet which could sense a lot more passionate and also romance inducing seeing that ideal remembrances. As period flies, we all forget about people compromised looks and the ones exclusive moments which have been consequently brimming with adore. Develop remembrances frequently, often by means of getting upset out the much-loved moments or maybe by means of videotaping this.

Would you think about how superb it becomes to watch some sort of satisfied house warming surprise or maybe a humorous joke ten years in the future? Relationship doesn’t always must be regarding adore, at times, contentment could be equally passionate.

#7 Become good to one another, specially when two of you are usually available together. If you’re this man, always be chivalrous. If you’re your ex, accompany the male and also make him think that some sort of guardian. When you handle one another using adore and also value, an individual unconsciously sense greater regarding by yourself along with the marriage. And once someone’s good to your account, an individual can’t help although always be good the government financial aid give back. Because of this , why ideal primary dates are usually consequently passionate.

Walk out the approaches to make each other sense exclusive regardless of how long an individual you’ve been in some sort of marriage with each other. It’ll make just about every minute sense much more passionate and also gorgeous.

#8 Advertise the adore. Appreciate is experienced involving a family, although is best seasoned if your entire world is aware about this. Approximately adore can be a private minute, we’re nevertheless humans using the need to sense greater regarding yourself. Your lover might not care about general public displays connected with love, although don’t cease spoiling from it.

Help make proclamations connected with adore in public or maybe surprise your lover by having plants or maybe gifts transported to his or her workplace. It could be shameful, but it always feels very good to become this fortuitous just one who’s receiving showered using interest.

Should you don’t similar to presenting the adore in the open, buy very little economical gifts on your companion when you’re buying without help. That shows that you feel about your soulmate at all times, and also it�s an exceptionally exclusive and also passionate touch.

#9 Hug your lover. Or kiss these individuals after they lowest be expecting this. Maybe you have felt the frustrating rush connected with love to your lover? Don’t cease by yourself if you sense adore properly way up interior an individual. In case your lover’s working or maybe preparing, stroll way up from at the rear of and provides these individuals some sort of hot embrace plus a kiss for not any explanation by any means.

When you embrace your soulmate and also relaxation all of your excess weight on them helplessly, it’ll make your lover often chuckle available or maybe sense shielding regarding an individual. Along with let’s take into account, this can be a truly passionate approach to declare ‘I adore you’.

#10 Laughter. Tease one another at all times. Have fun, engage in very little game titles, and also draw just about every other’s lower limbs and also hug by the end than it most. A lot more an individual chuckle and also socialise with each other, a lot more adore and also romance you’ll carry to the marriage.

Often, it’s good as a little one and also take pleasure in absurd game titles with each other. Ever seen some sort of lovely couple of wedge pillow deal with on the telly? A person can’t help happy, would you? Enjoy exactly the same absurd points, and also you’ll genuinely discover how to always be passionate.

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